Kink for Contrast
Katzenbaer talks about her kink for contrast, how it ramps up humiliation and why unwilling characters make everything hotter.
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Don’t Be A Dick
Katzenbaer proposes doing away with dick avatars. She does concede that Dick Avatar would be an amazing drag king name.
All Work and No Play? OnlyFans & Kinky Burnout
Can introducing money kill off your kink? Katzenbaer ponders the OnlyFans model and how to separate work from play.
Drag and Kink: A Tomboy Speaks
Katzenbaer reflects on the power of both kink and drag as tools of transformation.
Humiliation play: setting emotional filters
Humiliation play takes you close to the edge. Katzenbaer considers ways to avoid tumbling over and ruining a good thing.
The Ghost of Blushes Past: an origin story of sorts
At one reader’s request, Katzenbaer looks back at the archaeology of her kinks. What makes a girl crave humiliation, and what does The Little Mermaid have to do with it?
“If This Were Real, It Would Be Horrifying”
The challenge of protecting edge-play headspace from stories of real-world abuse. Themes may be upsetting – please read with care.
Saving Your Blushes: how can you keep humiliation fresh?
Humiliation is such an intense feeling – no wonder so many of us find it so hot. But what do you do for kicks when things just don’t embarrass you anymore?
Dirty words #2: You Say Paci, I Say Dummy
Katzenbaer ponders baby-talk for humiliation, UK v US words, and the power of the language we’ve grown up with.
Seven Savageisms I hold dear
Advice columnist Dan Savage has been a force of great good in my life, and that of many other perverts. In case you’re not familiar with his work, check out his column Savage Love and the podcast Savage Lovecast for funny, acerbic, compassionate, self-deprecating, kink-friendly advice. I wanted to share a few Savage pearls of … Read more